- CareerCoacha
- Posts
- Less opinions, less stress
Less opinions, less stress
PLUS: Eight practices of self leadership
Good Morning. For the next 5 minutes, your career is the most important thing.
In today’s email:
Eight practices of self leadership
Nelson Mandela’s stillness was charismatic
Work binges are tempting but
Less opinions, less stress
Avoiding drama triangles
ON YOUR CAREER
Eight practices of self leadership
We want to work for competent and generous leaders. There will be times in most of our careers when we will be dissatisfied with how we are being led. We can, however, lead ourselves.
Here are eight practices of self leadership to help you achieve your work goals:
Engage in peer coaching
Focus on delivering value to colleagues and customers
Pursue motivating goals
Bring a high level of energy each day
Have a twelve-month learning plan for your job
Write and speak persuasively
Foster resilience by focusing on what is within your control
Nurture your network of allies and sponsors
Self leadership is a foundation of successful people leadership.
Mastering others is strength; mastering oneself is true power
COMMUNICATION
Nelson Mandela’s stillness was charismatic
Nelson Mandela was renowned for his calm, dignified presence. He could sit still and listen. Mandela communicated with his body language that he was present for his audience. This drew others to him. It was part of his charisma.
Before any significant meeting, still yourself. Stillness is the state where you can model the energy and emotions you choose. Don’t fidget when you are listening to others. Being still communicates you are treating their interests seriously. This will draw people to you.
It's what I learn from the great actors that I work with. Stillness. That's all and that's the hardest thing.
PRODUCTIVITY
Work binges are tempting but
There are times when we have urgent opportunities and threats at work that lead to us pulling an all-nighter. Sometimes we will also work very late, getting inadequate sleep, to stay on a roll. Work binges are tempting. But they are the enemy of productivity. Tiredness in the days following work bingeing means we are overall less productive than if we had stopped for normal sleep. A balanced approach to sleep and work is a good short and long term strategy. Sleep = productivity.
1 MINUTE TO LOWER STRESS
Less opinions, less stress
Source: Living Stills/GIPHY
An executive I coached had the habit of offering many unsolicited opinions to his colleagues. These ranged from work to what car a person should buy. He was a know-it-all, annoying, and a cause of arguments. Unanimous in his 360 feedback was to offer less opinions. He made the change. And offering less opinions meant less stress for everyone
You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone.
GET SMARTER
Avoiding drama triangles
Workplaces are filled by heightened emotions. There is often drama between colleagues. Others can seek to draw us into their gossip and arguments, distracting us from our work goals. It’s not our responsibility to rescue others from conflicts that have little to do with us. These are excellent opportunities to ‘own the option of having no opinion’.
HOW WAS THIS WEEK'S NEWSLETTER? |
If you have specific feedback or anything interesting you’d like to share, please let us know by replying to this email.
First time reading? Subscribe for free